When you are dating, you put your best foot forward. The man will do just about anything to win the love of his girl and to do those things he knows she would like. These things are usually ‘service’ type activities as taking her to church, washing her car, putting together a picnic lunch, and generally helping her with whatever she needs. And a woman may spend a whole day cooking that special meal or washing his clothes to help him. But after marriage, people tend to revert back to their normal selves. If a man likes to hunt or play golf, he will start doing that more instead of helping his wife. And the wife may spend more of her time with friends or shopping than doing for her husband. Expectations on what we want and what we think ‘should’ be done can really cause problems for relationships. Action Plan Work this week on finding out if Acts of Service is your or your husband’s primary love language. You may ask yourself: Do you like him to help you around the house, getting the “to-do” list done without you having to ask him repeatedly? Ask your husband if you doing for him is #1 on his list. Some men think that since men ‘work’ (stereotype) they don’t have to do things around the house. And some women would prefer to do it all themselves. But for most women, especially young moms whose love language is acts of service, they are desperate to get some help from their husbands, working side by side with them raising the kids and building a home together. If your love language is Acts of Service, you will need to let your husband know that if he does these for you, you will feel that he loves you. If your husband has service as his primary love language, he will feel loved when he comes home to a clean home and probably a hot meal on the table. If you have small children these will be hard to do on a regular basis which is why communication is vital to a healthy relationship.…