John-3:20-21-niv,nkjv

“I protected YOUR reputation with our friends,” says Cheater. “So, I am asking you to do the same for me.” First, do not believe a proven liar, and Cheaters are proven liars. They are only saying this to control the narrative and protect their image. They assume here the faithful spouse will lie for their … Continue reading "“I protected YOUR reputation! So…”"…

“I protected YOUR reputation with our friends,” says Cheater. The manipulation is the Cheater expects the “same” in return. (I use scare quotes as I doubt the Cheater actually did this.) They assume here the faithful spouse will lie for the cheater in order to make them look good to their mutual friends. I say … Continue reading “Cheater-Speak Manipulation: “I protected YOUR reputation….””…

“I protected YOUR reputation with our friends,” says Cheater. The assumption here is the faithful spouse will lie for the cheater in order to make them look good to their mutual friends. I say lie because telling these friends a different reason than the infidelity being behind the divorce (or severe marriage struggles) is a … Continue reading “Cheater-Speak: “I protected YOUR reputation with our friends.””…

“I protected YOUR reputation with our friends,” says Cheater. “So, I am asking you to do the same for me.” First, do not believe a proven liar, and Cheaters are proven liars. They are only saying this to control the narrative and protect their image. They assume here the faithful spouse will lie for their … Continue reading "“I protected YOUR reputation! So…”"…

Marriage is honorable among all, and the bed undefiled; but fornicators and adulterers God will judge. -Hebrews 13:4, NKJV What if you find out your spouse cheated on you while you were dating or engaged but kept it a secret? This is damaging on multiple levels: First, you have the cheating. Discovering cheating is a real gut punch. … Continue reading "What if the infidelity predated the marriage?"…

Marriage is honorable among all, and the bed undefiled; but fornicators and adulterers God will judge. -Hebrews 13:4, NKJV What if you find out your spouse cheated on you while you were dating or engaged but kept it a secret? This is damaging on multiple levels: First, you have the cheating. Discovering cheating is a real gut punch. … Continue reading "What if the infidelity predated the marriage?"…

Jesus words about believers being the light of the world are familiar to most Christians. What does he mean and how do we do it?…