How To Love Your Wife - Part 2
by Robert Mains
Ephesians 5
What are some basic areas of marital adjustment 1 Peter 3:7? Dwell with your wives according to knowledge. Study. Share your mental knowledge. A husband has the spiritual responsibility to teach his wife what the Lord is teaching him.
When your wife speaks to you look at her and smile. Eye contact is important. Be sensitive to her desires. Consider each other where to go on vacation. When she goes shopping notice what she looks at.
Love your wife as the weaker vessel. Give honor to her; hold her up in esteem. Show respect to her. Do not make her look foolish and do not blame your problems on her. Do not have a double standard and spend money on yourself. Do not laugh at her. Instead you are to protect, comfort, give her due respect and offer sincere praise to her. Place confidence in her.
You are to be obedient to the scriptures so that your prayers will not be hindered. A hollow husband is a supreme egotist. By avid self-love, self-attention a you ignore your wife. You shut down communication. You cut off all healthy constructive sharing. You give off the attitude, "Wife, you don't exist; you are dead."
What wives like to appreciate about their husbands. A husband is to make a wife feel that her work is special. He should want his wife to reach her full potential and fulfill her dreams. A husband should treat the children as important individuals. He must care how they grow up and give them a lot of positive input. He is to say things to them like: "I appreciated the kind way you spoke to your sister. I noticed how well you obeyed your Mother." A husband looks for the best that each child has to offer. He looks for their spiritual growth. When he is wrong he is willing to say those precious two words: "I'm sorry."
Husbands, learn to control your temper. Call it sin. Proverbs 15:1; 13:10. Compliment your wife about something every day. Do something nice for her. Do not correct your wife in front of your children. When in private do it in love. Verbally acknowledge to your family when you have been wrong. Choose to do things with the family, the children, rather than do things just for yourself. Instead of golfing go to the beach. Pray with your wife as well as your children. While the children are young be sure to do this, then when they are older and they come to you for help you may need to say, "I don't have the answer for this but let's pray about this. God has the answer.
Never compliment other women in front of your wife; in fact, it should not be done unless a person is in the process of being built up in the faith. Feel comfortable with your children. If you don't is there sin in your life? Is there something between you and your children? If there a promise that you didn't keep? Never say "maybe" because that is like a promise to them. Never say, "If I feel like it" for they will think that you will feel like it. Is your testimony in the home one that you would be willing to share with anyone? Children want to see consistency.
The best dad is a good lover. The best thing he can do is to love their mother.
If your next appointment is your wife and she needs to talk over things, what would you say if she says, "I have a problem and my problem is you." Or "Please can we talk a little, I'm lonesome."
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